Mary Roach’s book Bonk is a riveting and engaging book that shows new light on the hush hush topic of sex. She brings the questions that everyone wants to know about the dirty deed out in the open to researchers, who sometimes themselves don’t ask the questions that she does. She brings topics about masturbation, orgasm, sexual arousal, and the structure and function of the private parts, to a whole different light. Not only to learn more about them, but to also find what science is doing to make this bedroom secret a more pleasurable and satisfying place. She does this not only in a scientific way but uses humor throughout to keep the reader engaged, and to keep it less awkward about the material mentioned in the book.
This book sparked interest for our group because sex has always been a quiet topic that not very many people talk about or feel comfortable talking about. We believe it was something that we have never read before and also something we could learn from and make us feel more comfortable and knowledgeable about this subject. Also, being that this book was about sex not in a sick and perverted way, but in a scientific way also caught our attention. We all have our questions about the topic and we all thought that maybe some of those questions could be answered. But, to also be able to bring new questions and answers to us that we have never thought of before. Sex being a touchy subject, and having a whole book covering the subject interested us too because you don’t see many books being published in a scientific, yet humorous way about that kind of subject. Being that the book is written openly and doesn’t leave details out made our interest of the book and subject also more appealing.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Vocab Builder #2: Bonk
1. Esoteric. (264) Def- understood by or meant for only the select few who have special knowledge or interest; recondite
2. Sequestered. (267) Def-to remove or withdraw into solitude or retirement; seclude.
3. Factotum. (268) Def-any employee or official having many different responsibilities.
4. Cremasteric. (273) Def-the suspensory muscle of the testis.
5. Libido. (280) Def-Psychoanalysis. All of the instinctual energies and desires that are derived from the id. {Sexual instinct or sexual drive.}
6. Coyness. (282) Def-artfully or affectedly shy or reserved; slyly hesitant; coquettish.
7. Latency. (286) Def-present but not visible, apparent, or actualized; existing as potential
8. Pheromones. (288) Def-any chemical substance released by an animal that serves to influence the physiology or behavior of other members of the same species.
9. Supposition. (290) Def-something that is supposed; assumption; hypothesis.
10. Olfactory. (293) Def-of or pertaining to the sense of smell.
2. Sequestered. (267) Def-to remove or withdraw into solitude or retirement; seclude.
3. Factotum. (268) Def-any employee or official having many different responsibilities.
4. Cremasteric. (273) Def-the suspensory muscle of the testis.
5. Libido. (280) Def-Psychoanalysis. All of the instinctual energies and desires that are derived from the id. {Sexual instinct or sexual drive.}
6. Coyness. (282) Def-artfully or affectedly shy or reserved; slyly hesitant; coquettish.
7. Latency. (286) Def-present but not visible, apparent, or actualized; existing as potential
8. Pheromones. (288) Def-any chemical substance released by an animal that serves to influence the physiology or behavior of other members of the same species.
9. Supposition. (290) Def-something that is supposed; assumption; hypothesis.
10. Olfactory. (293) Def-of or pertaining to the sense of smell.
Quizzer #2: Bonk
1. Why do you think Roach only chose to write about people with spinal injuries having orgasms, instead of people with other disabilities?
I think the main reason she chose to write about people with spinal cord injuries is because with those people how do you know what they feel and if they can even maintain a healthy sexual life. I think she was interested in that subject and wanted to bring it to the general public. People with spinal cord injuries are usually paralyzed, and aren’t suppose to feel anything, but often can feel an orgasm, it just may be in a different place and a different way. I also think if she wrote about people with other disabilities it would be less effective because you think “oh those people should be able to have sex”, but with spinal cord injuries you think “oh they are paralyzed from the waist down so they must not be able to have sexual intercourse. I think it was great that instead of just writing about normal healthy people, she also took the time to research how people with disabilities do it. That helps the general public understand more and also people with spinal injuries that they can have an effective orgasm they just need to be directed in the right way.
2. How do you think the people with spinal injuries benefited from having Roach write about how they deal with sexual encounters?
I think it was a great idea for Roach to write about them, because as she mentioned in the book is that many couples that have a disability like that don’t know where to go, don’t know who to look toward for help in that subject. I think personally I would be embarrassed to talk with people and I think by her including them in her book that people with these disabilities can come forward for help so that they can experience sex like they should be able to in a healthy and positive manner. I think they also benefited because not only is more research being done for them, but they are learning new stuff for people with sexual dysfunction in every kind of manner. It was brave of her to write about such a touchy subject in the first place, but to also include the research being done on people with disabilities is an even greater step that was probably help the general population that do have disabilities.
3. Why do you think Roach mentions in the chapter title of 12, that women are complicated?
I think first off, through her whole research she found women are complicated, but she directs they are complicated in the areas of sex. One reason I believe she says they are complicated is that you can’t tell when a woman is aroused. Men they have physical proof that they are aroused because you can see the obvious erection of the male. In females you can’t see that they are the most likely have to voice it if they are and many women either say they are when they aren’t or just pretend to be. That makes the whole sexual experience complicated. Another thing that Roach mentions about women being complicated is that women can’t focus on just sex. When they are having sex they can be thinking about numerous things like work, kids, problems in their life. While the men just focus on how good they want the sex to be and just about the sex. I also think maybe she says this in her book because of the men readers so that they are more apt to please their partner during sex because of how complicated they can be.
4. Do you think that erectile dysfunction and female sex dysfunction are physical or psychological?
For me I think it is more psychological than physical. Often men and women are so apt about pleasing their partner and how they look that they don’t just go and enjoy the sex. They have so much anxiety built up that they aren’t focused on the deed itself but other things and often this leads to low self esteem and not a whole lot happening in bed. This also brings the issue of drugs saying they can make things better and get rid of the sexual dysfunction. They have Viagra for a man, which is proven to work, but not a whole lot for women to use. This is a reason to think it is also physical too because your body ages and of course things don’t work like they should, but I think people over analyze things and assume things too quickly. I know the book mentions that often it is more of a physical reason in men and then psychological reason in women to have sexual dysfunction maybe that is how it works, but I do think a majority of it is psychological.
I think the main reason she chose to write about people with spinal cord injuries is because with those people how do you know what they feel and if they can even maintain a healthy sexual life. I think she was interested in that subject and wanted to bring it to the general public. People with spinal cord injuries are usually paralyzed, and aren’t suppose to feel anything, but often can feel an orgasm, it just may be in a different place and a different way. I also think if she wrote about people with other disabilities it would be less effective because you think “oh those people should be able to have sex”, but with spinal cord injuries you think “oh they are paralyzed from the waist down so they must not be able to have sexual intercourse. I think it was great that instead of just writing about normal healthy people, she also took the time to research how people with disabilities do it. That helps the general public understand more and also people with spinal injuries that they can have an effective orgasm they just need to be directed in the right way.
2. How do you think the people with spinal injuries benefited from having Roach write about how they deal with sexual encounters?
I think it was a great idea for Roach to write about them, because as she mentioned in the book is that many couples that have a disability like that don’t know where to go, don’t know who to look toward for help in that subject. I think personally I would be embarrassed to talk with people and I think by her including them in her book that people with these disabilities can come forward for help so that they can experience sex like they should be able to in a healthy and positive manner. I think they also benefited because not only is more research being done for them, but they are learning new stuff for people with sexual dysfunction in every kind of manner. It was brave of her to write about such a touchy subject in the first place, but to also include the research being done on people with disabilities is an even greater step that was probably help the general population that do have disabilities.
3. Why do you think Roach mentions in the chapter title of 12, that women are complicated?
I think first off, through her whole research she found women are complicated, but she directs they are complicated in the areas of sex. One reason I believe she says they are complicated is that you can’t tell when a woman is aroused. Men they have physical proof that they are aroused because you can see the obvious erection of the male. In females you can’t see that they are the most likely have to voice it if they are and many women either say they are when they aren’t or just pretend to be. That makes the whole sexual experience complicated. Another thing that Roach mentions about women being complicated is that women can’t focus on just sex. When they are having sex they can be thinking about numerous things like work, kids, problems in their life. While the men just focus on how good they want the sex to be and just about the sex. I also think maybe she says this in her book because of the men readers so that they are more apt to please their partner during sex because of how complicated they can be.
4. Do you think that erectile dysfunction and female sex dysfunction are physical or psychological?
For me I think it is more psychological than physical. Often men and women are so apt about pleasing their partner and how they look that they don’t just go and enjoy the sex. They have so much anxiety built up that they aren’t focused on the deed itself but other things and often this leads to low self esteem and not a whole lot happening in bed. This also brings the issue of drugs saying they can make things better and get rid of the sexual dysfunction. They have Viagra for a man, which is proven to work, but not a whole lot for women to use. This is a reason to think it is also physical too because your body ages and of course things don’t work like they should, but I think people over analyze things and assume things too quickly. I know the book mentions that often it is more of a physical reason in men and then psychological reason in women to have sexual dysfunction maybe that is how it works, but I do think a majority of it is psychological.
Summarizer: Bonk
In chapters 9 and 10 of Mary Roach’s book Bonk, Mary talks about the structure of the vagina and also what you can do to keep it healthy also how to avoid and also get rid of the FSD or otherwise known as Female Sexual Dysfunction.
In chapter 9, Roach talks about a very interesting topic, and that is the lady’s boner. This may not be known to very many, but the female’s clitoris is known as the lady’s penis. The thing that is different from men’s is mainly just the look, the men’s is outside while the women’s lies on the inside. What is the same is that both organs have ends that are sensitive and nerve-dense, that have a pleasure bulb of tissue that is called the glans. Both also have a shaft and contain expandable chambers called corpora cavernosa, which is also covered with prepuce, or foreskin. She became intrigued by this through the research of Ken Maravilla who is a radiology professor. He uses MRI’s to take a look at not only outside structure of the vagina, but also the internal side of it to see just what happens when woman are aroused. He was measuring the amount of blood flow in the tissues of the woman’s clitoris, to figure out mounting readiness. Also to see if, these affect women with or without FSD.
In chapter 10, Roach takes her knowledge of FSD, wants to see what is out there to help prevent it and see what can help control it. What she finds is a company called NuGyn that is located in Minnesota, which is a small business run by a man called Curt Olson. His company makes products for ED and FSD. His company came up with the Eros Clitoral Therapy Device. This is what people may call a penis pump, but for women. This chapter covers methods and products that are used both by men and women so that they can get the most out of their sexual experience. Also, it covers masturbating for your health, so you can achieve the best orgasm and maybe be able to prevent ED and also FSD. It also briefly mentions orgasms and the effect they have on the body for health people and also people with disabilities and how it might temporarily help the disorder they have.
This section is a breakdown of the whole book by itself. Each section of the book talks about different aspects of sex. In other parts it talks about the penis and its role and functions, this one referred to the female genitalia. I think it takes the broad topic of sex and breaks it down into different parts that make up sex like the organs used and the materials we use to improve it. The sections were split into parts about the women’s boner and also talked about masturbating for your health. So it is just covering a more specific topic of, the broad topic about sex.
In chapter 9, Roach talks about a very interesting topic, and that is the lady’s boner. This may not be known to very many, but the female’s clitoris is known as the lady’s penis. The thing that is different from men’s is mainly just the look, the men’s is outside while the women’s lies on the inside. What is the same is that both organs have ends that are sensitive and nerve-dense, that have a pleasure bulb of tissue that is called the glans. Both also have a shaft and contain expandable chambers called corpora cavernosa, which is also covered with prepuce, or foreskin. She became intrigued by this through the research of Ken Maravilla who is a radiology professor. He uses MRI’s to take a look at not only outside structure of the vagina, but also the internal side of it to see just what happens when woman are aroused. He was measuring the amount of blood flow in the tissues of the woman’s clitoris, to figure out mounting readiness. Also to see if, these affect women with or without FSD.
In chapter 10, Roach takes her knowledge of FSD, wants to see what is out there to help prevent it and see what can help control it. What she finds is a company called NuGyn that is located in Minnesota, which is a small business run by a man called Curt Olson. His company makes products for ED and FSD. His company came up with the Eros Clitoral Therapy Device. This is what people may call a penis pump, but for women. This chapter covers methods and products that are used both by men and women so that they can get the most out of their sexual experience. Also, it covers masturbating for your health, so you can achieve the best orgasm and maybe be able to prevent ED and also FSD. It also briefly mentions orgasms and the effect they have on the body for health people and also people with disabilities and how it might temporarily help the disorder they have.
This section is a breakdown of the whole book by itself. Each section of the book talks about different aspects of sex. In other parts it talks about the penis and its role and functions, this one referred to the female genitalia. I think it takes the broad topic of sex and breaks it down into different parts that make up sex like the organs used and the materials we use to improve it. The sections were split into parts about the women’s boner and also talked about masturbating for your health. So it is just covering a more specific topic of, the broad topic about sex.
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Vocab Builder #1: Bonk
1. Coitus, pg. 74, Def. Sexual Intercourse, esp. between a man and women.
2. Purulent, pg. 75, Def. full of, containing, forming, or discharging pus; suppurating.
3. Chaste, pg. 76, Def. refraining from sexual intercourse that is regarded as a contrary to mortality or religion; virtuous.
4. Cunnilingus, pg. 77, Def. the act of practicing of orally stimulating the female genitals.
5. Harrumphed, pg. 78, Def. To offer usually brief critical comments.
6. Hymens, pg. 79, Def. A membranous fold of tissue that partly or completely occludes the external vaginal orifice.
7. Fecundate, pg. 94, Def. to impregnate or fertilize.
8. Flummoxed, pg. 95, Def. to confuse; perplex
9. Chagrin, pg. 98, Def. a feeling of vexation, marked by disappointment or humiliation.
10. Prolapsed, pg. 102, Def. a falling down of an organ or part, as the uterus, from its normal position.
2. Purulent, pg. 75, Def. full of, containing, forming, or discharging pus; suppurating.
3. Chaste, pg. 76, Def. refraining from sexual intercourse that is regarded as a contrary to mortality or religion; virtuous.
4. Cunnilingus, pg. 77, Def. the act of practicing of orally stimulating the female genitals.
5. Harrumphed, pg. 78, Def. To offer usually brief critical comments.
6. Hymens, pg. 79, Def. A membranous fold of tissue that partly or completely occludes the external vaginal orifice.
7. Fecundate, pg. 94, Def. to impregnate or fertilize.
8. Flummoxed, pg. 95, Def. to confuse; perplex
9. Chagrin, pg. 98, Def. a feeling of vexation, marked by disappointment or humiliation.
10. Prolapsed, pg. 102, Def. a falling down of an organ or part, as the uterus, from its normal position.
Quizzer #1:Bonk
1. Do you think it is socially acceptable for the researchers to masturbate and have sex with the research participants?
I think personally it would be awkward if I were either the participant or the researcher. Because, like the book brought up I would think the researchers are mixing work with play and not really finding the information they intended to do. But as long as the participants gave their consent and their names and information would be kept confidential I think it would be ok. Also if the researchers are truly in to find the information that they intended about sex I think it is acceptable. If we didn’t have people doing this we wouldn’t know as much as we know today.
2. How do you think the times have changed from the late 1800’s to now dealing with sex as a public topic?
Back in the 1800’s I think people though sex was “always done but it was never talked about.” It was socially unacceptable and was looked at as being bad and something that wasn’t discussed openly. The book brought up the points that they studied animals to find out how humans copulate. That just wouldn’t work, because we are different in lots of ways. I think as we learned more and more about it; it became easier and more comfortable to talk about. Today, I know it still isn’t polite to talk openly about it with everyone but a lot of people do with friends and in school and at random times. It has come a long way since the late 1800’s till now.
3. If you were Mary Roach and were presented with some of the situations she put herself in, how would you feel?
I would feel so awkward, I think it would take time for me to openly ask the things she does and have a hard time doing it. I would feel ashamed or embarrassed to do so. Also, the seminar that she attended, I think I would just have been freaked out and be like what the hell am I doing here. So, I give her credit for being brave enough to go out and do the research and the interviews she did.
4. After reading a little into the book what do you think Mary Roach was trying to do for her audience by having such an open and graphic book?
I think Mary Roach herself was interested in the mysteries of sex and though her audience might be as well. So, she wrote a very thorough and detailed book. I also think she wanted people to feel more comfortable talking about it because the subject is becoming more open and she wants people to see that. Also, with this book, it shows the history of sex and what we did and didn’t know about it. It brought all that up in the book so the general public could have more knowledge of it and be comfortable around it because they know more about it and are more comfortable with it today.
I think personally it would be awkward if I were either the participant or the researcher. Because, like the book brought up I would think the researchers are mixing work with play and not really finding the information they intended to do. But as long as the participants gave their consent and their names and information would be kept confidential I think it would be ok. Also if the researchers are truly in to find the information that they intended about sex I think it is acceptable. If we didn’t have people doing this we wouldn’t know as much as we know today.
2. How do you think the times have changed from the late 1800’s to now dealing with sex as a public topic?
Back in the 1800’s I think people though sex was “always done but it was never talked about.” It was socially unacceptable and was looked at as being bad and something that wasn’t discussed openly. The book brought up the points that they studied animals to find out how humans copulate. That just wouldn’t work, because we are different in lots of ways. I think as we learned more and more about it; it became easier and more comfortable to talk about. Today, I know it still isn’t polite to talk openly about it with everyone but a lot of people do with friends and in school and at random times. It has come a long way since the late 1800’s till now.
3. If you were Mary Roach and were presented with some of the situations she put herself in, how would you feel?
I would feel so awkward, I think it would take time for me to openly ask the things she does and have a hard time doing it. I would feel ashamed or embarrassed to do so. Also, the seminar that she attended, I think I would just have been freaked out and be like what the hell am I doing here. So, I give her credit for being brave enough to go out and do the research and the interviews she did.
4. After reading a little into the book what do you think Mary Roach was trying to do for her audience by having such an open and graphic book?
I think Mary Roach herself was interested in the mysteries of sex and though her audience might be as well. So, she wrote a very thorough and detailed book. I also think she wanted people to feel more comfortable talking about it because the subject is becoming more open and she wants people to see that. Also, with this book, it shows the history of sex and what we did and didn’t know about it. It brought all that up in the book so the general public could have more knowledge of it and be comfortable around it because they know more about it and are more comfortable with it today.
Death:Jamie Lynn Mckillip
Having been alive for 19 years, I have unfortunately had the chance to experience what death is about. I have experienced the feelings, the emotions, what funerals and wakes are like, and everything that happens when a loved one dies. It is an awful thing that happens and something you don’t want to happen, but you know it does and it will eventually happen to everyone, people just don’t know when. I have had 4 family members die that I can remember. Three of them were uncles, and I had one great aunt pass away. My great uncles’ passing was probably the most recent which happened in January. These did have an effect on me, but not as much to make me cry. I was sad for my whole family, but it just didn’t hit me in the way it did with others. My mom and dad were extremely upset when my great uncle died. It was like my mom’s second dad to her because her dad died when she was 11 and he was always there for my dad too. These impacted my family and me, but it didn’t hit me like it did my mom and dad. I did experience a death though, which was probably the hardest for me.
This last August right before school was about to start, I had a friend get into a bad car accident; she passed away at the scene. I remember exactly what I was doing at the time I found out. I had just moved into the dorms and had stayed a couple days there. I was just getting back to my room from lower campus and was going on the computer when I got a phone call from my brother. He told me that he heard this girl (her name was Jamie) was dead. Then there were 4 others from my high school that were involved in the accident. He said two were in intensive care and might not make it. The other one they thought might have to get his arm amputated. Then the other kid that was involved was fine. When he said the girl was dead I didn’t believe him. I kept asking him if he was lying. He said that is what he heard and he wasn’t sure if it really happened. He said that maybe she isn’t dead. I had to find out if she was or wasn’t, I called my cousin who was really good friends with her. She didn’t answer her phone for awhile but then her dad picked up. Once he picked up I knew it was true because my cousin couldn’t explain it to me because she was crying so she had handed the phone to her dad. I asked if it was true what happened, and he said yes it was. I was so shocked and didn’t know what to think, I just kind of stood there quietly. My roommate asked me what happened and I told him that I just found out a friend of mine had died in a car accident. I spent the next half an hour calling my other friends that were at college in case they didn’t know because we were all away from our home town at college. We all knew this girl, were I come from it is a small town and everyone knows everyone or just about. Some people had heard it and a lot of my other friends hadn’t heard it yet. We were all shocked, and we still didn’t believe it no matter what people said. I was thinking the whole time she is only 17 she can’t be dead.
This was a bad week for the community of Mondovi because the students were just about to start school, summer was ending and everyone was getting into the swing of things. This put a damper on it all, and the whole town of Mondovi was shocked, other towns were even shocked. It probably didn’t hit me until I attended her wake that she was actually dead. I went into the building and there were a lot of people there and they were all in tears. It wasn’t a good thing to walk into. I scene my cousin and she came running to me, and gave me a big hug with tears streaming down her face, and that is when I started to cry. I was so sad for Jamie and for her family. She didn’t get to experience a full life like my uncles had or many other people had. She was only 17! She didn’t get to experience her senior year, her graduating, going to college, getting married, or living a fulfilling life. It made me mad that she wasn’t going to be able to do all that. When I went and saw her in the casket it was so unreal she looked so beautiful and peaceful just like she was sleeping. She was in her basketball jacket, because she loved to play sports and there were flowers all around her. I didn’t go very close because her parents were standing by there talking with people. I couldn’t even imagine being them, having to experience that with their daughter. All the other people involved came out fine and had no lasting effects.
I think this was probably the hardest death experience I have had yet because I knew this girl, I hung out with her and talked with her and she wasn’t that much younger than me and she was gone. She won’t ever get to have a life like we get to, because it was cut short from an accident involving reckless drivers and for not wearing seatbelts. I still can’t believe she is gone sometimes, I will see pictures of her somewhere and I will still think she is alive, but really know deep down she isn’t coming back. I am so glad I had the chance to meet her, to hang out with her, and to talk with her. She was an amazing person and didn’t deserve to go so soon, but that was God’s way saying time for her to come to heaven. I will always remember her, and remember the great times I did get to have with her. R.I.P. Jamie Lynn McKillip.
As a side note, a few months later a group of her friends had went bowling and had their cameras with and having a good time. One of the girls had dropped their camera and it had gone off with a flash. When they had picked it up, on the screen, barely visible, was a picture of Jamie, smiling that smile she does. They were all shocked and it brought tears and they couldn’t believe it and didn’t think people would believe them, but they saved the picture and posted it on facebook. They see this stuff on TV all the time, but didn’t think it could happen but it did. Everyone that looks at it believes it was her that day showing that she is alright and is safe and not to worry about her.
This last August right before school was about to start, I had a friend get into a bad car accident; she passed away at the scene. I remember exactly what I was doing at the time I found out. I had just moved into the dorms and had stayed a couple days there. I was just getting back to my room from lower campus and was going on the computer when I got a phone call from my brother. He told me that he heard this girl (her name was Jamie) was dead. Then there were 4 others from my high school that were involved in the accident. He said two were in intensive care and might not make it. The other one they thought might have to get his arm amputated. Then the other kid that was involved was fine. When he said the girl was dead I didn’t believe him. I kept asking him if he was lying. He said that is what he heard and he wasn’t sure if it really happened. He said that maybe she isn’t dead. I had to find out if she was or wasn’t, I called my cousin who was really good friends with her. She didn’t answer her phone for awhile but then her dad picked up. Once he picked up I knew it was true because my cousin couldn’t explain it to me because she was crying so she had handed the phone to her dad. I asked if it was true what happened, and he said yes it was. I was so shocked and didn’t know what to think, I just kind of stood there quietly. My roommate asked me what happened and I told him that I just found out a friend of mine had died in a car accident. I spent the next half an hour calling my other friends that were at college in case they didn’t know because we were all away from our home town at college. We all knew this girl, were I come from it is a small town and everyone knows everyone or just about. Some people had heard it and a lot of my other friends hadn’t heard it yet. We were all shocked, and we still didn’t believe it no matter what people said. I was thinking the whole time she is only 17 she can’t be dead.
This was a bad week for the community of Mondovi because the students were just about to start school, summer was ending and everyone was getting into the swing of things. This put a damper on it all, and the whole town of Mondovi was shocked, other towns were even shocked. It probably didn’t hit me until I attended her wake that she was actually dead. I went into the building and there were a lot of people there and they were all in tears. It wasn’t a good thing to walk into. I scene my cousin and she came running to me, and gave me a big hug with tears streaming down her face, and that is when I started to cry. I was so sad for Jamie and for her family. She didn’t get to experience a full life like my uncles had or many other people had. She was only 17! She didn’t get to experience her senior year, her graduating, going to college, getting married, or living a fulfilling life. It made me mad that she wasn’t going to be able to do all that. When I went and saw her in the casket it was so unreal she looked so beautiful and peaceful just like she was sleeping. She was in her basketball jacket, because she loved to play sports and there were flowers all around her. I didn’t go very close because her parents were standing by there talking with people. I couldn’t even imagine being them, having to experience that with their daughter. All the other people involved came out fine and had no lasting effects.
I think this was probably the hardest death experience I have had yet because I knew this girl, I hung out with her and talked with her and she wasn’t that much younger than me and she was gone. She won’t ever get to have a life like we get to, because it was cut short from an accident involving reckless drivers and for not wearing seatbelts. I still can’t believe she is gone sometimes, I will see pictures of her somewhere and I will still think she is alive, but really know deep down she isn’t coming back. I am so glad I had the chance to meet her, to hang out with her, and to talk with her. She was an amazing person and didn’t deserve to go so soon, but that was God’s way saying time for her to come to heaven. I will always remember her, and remember the great times I did get to have with her. R.I.P. Jamie Lynn McKillip.
As a side note, a few months later a group of her friends had went bowling and had their cameras with and having a good time. One of the girls had dropped their camera and it had gone off with a flash. When they had picked it up, on the screen, barely visible, was a picture of Jamie, smiling that smile she does. They were all shocked and it brought tears and they couldn’t believe it and didn’t think people would believe them, but they saved the picture and posted it on facebook. They see this stuff on TV all the time, but didn’t think it could happen but it did. Everyone that looks at it believes it was her that day showing that she is alright and is safe and not to worry about her.
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